Go your own way
Why should I attend the wedding? The wedding of a Malay cousin I don't even know. And the following week the wedding of her sister who I of course don't know either. Don't tell me "Go for papa lah, papa always show face at all these events." Fuck that. I don't want to have anything to do with any of those Malays at all. What I've decided to do for my dad is to get a remembrance tattoo and stay in Islam to keep his name beside mine. Don't tell me what I should and should not be doing for the man. I've spent my whole life with him, you? Less than a third of your own. Don't get me wrong, I love you. I just don't agree with you. If you want to pay tribute to the man, visit his grave. Why bother attending such pointless events and putting on fake plastic smiles? So then if I agree with your ways, do I have to put up with all these nonsense and forever put on an amicable and hospitable front in the face of those scums till the day I die? Because you know nothing, you speak of such so effortlessly. You know nothing of the injustice we've had to face. If you want to meet me, by all means because we are blood siblings. But that should be as far as we go. Anything else, leave me alone and go your own way. Don't mind me, don't force me.