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Hello world, long time no bad vibes. Topic in discussion today:
Attention seeking narcissism, too much self-love or lack thereof?
Understand that narcissism is typically an excessive admiration of oneself, seemingly to a worshipping extent. With this definition in mind, yes, right off the bat it'll fall under too much self-love. However, I include the aspect of attention seeking in reference to my intended target. This narcissistic individual in my situation is on the tricky end across the narcissist spectrum. To facilitate my story-telling, let's just call this individual 'E' and normal individuals as 'Normies'. Now, let's label the problematic behaviours of E.
1. Redirecting Attention
Example:
Me: (Scored Distinction for an exam)
Normies: Wow grats! Nice! Good job sia!
E: Wah same as me the previous exam
2. Egocentric
Example:
(Attending a workshop with over 20 people, of which at the end only 20 get picked for a quiz)
Me: (Selected)
E: (Not selected) Yall racist don't want me
E: I'm the unwanted one
E: Now I nothing to do
E: Sian
3(a). False Devaluation/ Pity-play
Example:
E: (Scored Distinction the previous exam)
E: Yall can do this project without me right? I so stupid no one needs me.
3(b). Praise Baiting
Example:
E: Yall can do this project without me right? I so stupid no one needs me.
Normies: Nooo you where got stupid! You scored Distinction previously leh.
4. Testing The Water Communications
This refers to "accidental" random text messages
Example:
(Group chat talking about yesterday's outing which E didn't attend)
E: Meet you at smoking corner
E: Eh sorry wrong chat
(E is not known to be a smoker)
Which brings us back to Point 1., because
Normies: Wtf you smoke meh?
Normies: Since when?!
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I could go on and on but this is pretty much the gist of E. Note, all points mentioned can easily be interlinked and lead to E's goal which is clearly, getting the spotlight plus his need for attention and ego fed. That being said, could this still be diagnosed as a case of too much self-love?
At this point, I'm too disturbed to unsee E's past behaviour and too disgusted to not think of any underlying manipulation behind E's every word and action. I genuinely am so annoyed I can't even stand to be around E in name as in just being in the same group chats.